Chris , thanks for sharing the story. Fortunately the bedwetting alarm from Rodger does work and stops the need for medication. Lots of testimonials from parents can be found here http://www.bedwettingalarm.ie/testimonials.html
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Posted on J October, 2012, in Bedwetting, Family, Life, Motherhood, Parenting, Self-esteem, Sleep and tagged bedwetting, Chris Dean, enuresis, Life Your Way, MOMfessional, rubber sheets, shameful secret, sleep cycles, washing sheets. Bookmark the permalink. 20 Comments.
1 in 50 teenagers suffer from bedwetting. As a child ages it becomes less understood and can take a toll on the individual. 40% of our patients are 13 or older. Our clinic's methodology places nighttime enuresis - bedwetting as a symptom, not the real problem. 38 years of successfully treating children, teenagers and yes, adults has shown that bedwetting occurs in the deepest sleep when the brain is not able to receive signals from the bladder. The ongoing nighttime wetting is rarely a urological problem. It is a deep sleep problem that must be addressed to achieve maximum benefit that takes an individual from wetting to a dry bed as well as a restorative, healthy sleep. Parents tell us they always knew there was more to this than just the years of bed-wetting. Bedwetting does not "run" in families. The genetically passed sleep disorder is passed down. The sleep disorder can produce MANY DIFFERENT symptoms: bedwetting, sleep walking, night terrors, sleep apnea. Thank you for being a voice. Regards, Barbara Moore Founder/CEO The Enuresis Treatment Center www.nobedwetting.com
I too grew up wetting the bed and between the ages of 5 and 10 my bed was protected and I wore protection, My parents never made me feel bad about my bedwetting and assured me that it was much more important to get a good nights sleep then to be changing bedclothes during the night. Today me bedwetter feels the same love that I did and that's how we get through bedwetting in our family.
I was always late with every stage of my ' development'; walking ; talking; .....menstruation finally arrived just in time for my 15 th birthday. But so far being reliably continuously dry at night has so far eluded me and Iam 23 ; I've tried every trick in the book and am a master at protecting both myself and my bed each night; but so far not so good. I could never face going to College or University but thankfully there is Open Uni and other correspondence courses.... As for boyfriends and God forbid sex.....not a hope in my life ......yet. But I must be thankfull for wonderful ( though separated) parents and a dear supportive younger sister who has never teased me plus other friends who have ' accidentally found out' over the years and are incredibly understanding...which leads to greater feelings of less guilt. And Iam thankfull too for the Internet where one can meet fellow sufferers anonymously .. ' privately in public ' as someone so cleverly worded it. So one realizes one is NOT alone. Lots more like me out there....some even famous. I am thankfull too for the ' streaks ' of dry nights that occur for me sometimes, ( as much as a week or even 2 weeks at a time) but then I am confused despair and depressed when I awake up wet once again....seemingly for no reason that I can fathom. SIGH.....
Hi,I know I'm a little late coming to the party but I am also a chronic bedwetter..I was just wondering what was the name of the medicine you were on that limited your amount of deep sleeping? I have been on ddavp the pills and the nasal spray. I have used the disposable pads along with the washable ones. I have to admit I have purposefully refused drinking any type of liquid to see if it would make a difference and it never did. I become frustrated and angry with myself because other than this one thing Icannot not seem to have any relief. There are days/nights (as I am afraid to fall asleep for fear of an episode) that I have been dry and the longest was maybe a week and a half. I'm 28 now and while I understand I am still young I'm having a hard time believing I will find that person who will see that it isn't my fault and that I'm not "disgusting" and "just lazy". My parents were the type to not purposefully shame me but also letting me know with exasperated sighs and dirty looks that this is shameful. I have dealt with years of dirty looks and hateful words from mainly my family and my ex partners. I am glad that I have found this blog while researching because I have never really gotten this all out before and I must say it feels very freeing. Thank you for writing this. I greatly appreciate it.
Chris - thanks for sharing your story. You are not alone, I suffered, so did my husband, and my brother and now his son. Fortunately my daughter didn't inherit the problem. Perhaps by shedding more light, it will result in better treatment and less shame for those who suffer! Hugs!
So glad you wrote about this. I think so many families go through it, and try so many things to "cure" it when time is usually all that is needed. Though talking to the doctor doesn't hurt either. We went through this with one of our children (I won't say which so that when the kids write the "Mommy Dearest book I know is coming at least I won't have that to feel guilty about!!). We knew it was from some allergy medication that they needed and handled it along the same way you did with your child. Self esteem was left in tact and it went away as the child got older. I think it's amazing that it was your grandfather that intervened and said to let it go!! Very lucky girl!! Thanks again for sharing this!!!
Thanks. My family doctor told me, "Bedwetting is a symptom, not a disease." I *started* wetting when I was 14. You can't believe how devastating that is to a teenage girl. (I guess you probably can, if you wet until you were 17!) Fortunately, I have a caring, practical mom. She was calm and reassuring. She treated it as if it was no big deal, and so it wasn't. Just dump the wet thing in the trash or the washer and get a good shower. All my siblings wet the bed until they were teenagers, but it didn't keep any of us from doing all the things that kids do. I went on sleepovers and class trips. I dated (a lot). I went to college and graduate school. I married a great guy. I have a successful international business. I have three great kids. I'm a bedwetting mom With the products available now, it's even easier to deal with it. My oldest (9) is just now outgrowing it, but it hasn't kept her down at all. I don't think she's ever thought about it. You were lucky that your Grandpa stepped in. People can be cruel and stupid. An aunt told me I was too lazy to get up. Another one told me that I was doing it to get attention. She also told Mom that we kids were bedwetters because Mom was too permissive. (That's a hoot!). A college doctor told me it was all psychological and I needed to see a shrink. (I didn't.) Mom did send me to the family doctor right away. He tested me for everything obvious; then sent me to urologists and neurologists. It wasn't until a few years ago (after a lot of awful testing) that they found the cause. Unfortunately, there's nothing can be done for it.
Wonderful, as always, Chris! We are not defined by our "messes," so to speak. We are defined by how we deal with them!
This is so excellent, Chris. We went through this with one of my siblings, same "solutions". She eventually outgrew it without medication. I tend toward the other end. I'm a very light sleeper and, once, my hubs said, "If you're awake, you might as well use the bathroom." We'll, that DOOMED me to getting up to use the bathroom every freaking time I stirred from sleep. It takes major doses of melatonin & valerian to get me sleeping deeply enough that I'm not up 4-5 times a night to use the potty.
Great article, thank you for shedding light on something that affects (and indeed needlessly traumatizes) so many families!
I'm so glad you pointed out that bedwetting is a medical condition. It's brought on by immature bladders. I can't remember exact numbers, but only a few of my kids occasionally wet the bed but one son was a serious betwetter until he was in gr. 1. At times it was frustrating but we just had to wait it out.
Thanks Lady! I didn't know it for most of my childhood either! My Mom was not the biggest fan of open communication with her offspring, especially about thier health. (It took too much time.) I heard people say I was "lazy" and "disgusting" but knew I couldn't control it. Thank goodness for sleep tests and experimental drugs. Otherwise, I never would have been able to go to college and drop out after a year. *grin* (I do so love sarcasm!)
LOL! Thanks Kate. I kinda took the X-Files approach...trust no one. This is the first time I've ever spoken openly...*twitches a little* It's still a bit unnerving.
Ugh! Both sides of the coin stink, don't they? Fortunately none of my kids required medication. #3 finally just STOPPED about they time they turned 12 (Puberty). They're still hard as all get out to wake up (me too) but at least twe both DO wake up. My Grandfather trained himeself to wake up every 2 hours during the night to use the bathroom. I'm just glad you found a way to get a good night's sleep!
Thank you! Believe it or not, I'm STILL nervous and kinda embarrassed talking about it, even though I know it's just one more part of life for some of us. *grin* Hopefully, my embarrassment will help another family feeling equally as uncomfortable about it.
You should visit Chris' blog - she writes so openly and honestly about life's struggles. An amazing woman.
Thank you! And yes, that's one of several possible causes. The only way to figure out why a child continues is a series of REALLY "fun" tests. (My all time fave was the one that tested for possible blockages.) Oddly enough, they've also linked chronic constipation to bed wetting.