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Michelle Lewsen Why I Let My Kids Fight

Look on the wall of any kindergarten classroom and you’ll find a list of rules like this:

Classroom rules by theycallmemummy.com

From the minute they enter the school system, our kids are taught how to be good, play fair, be nice. It’s wonderful and delightful and, well, unrealistic. I was the mother who mirrored those rules at home. I made damned sure my children said please and thank-you. I always facilitated sharing and turn-taking. We spoke about weapon-words and how to ask for things nicely and how snatching toys was bad. When my  children started to fight with one another, I always jumped right in and mediated so they could learn that it’s not necessary to be mean. We did a lot of role-playing. How very naive. Not to mention short-sighted. “Why?”, you ask. Read the rest of this entry
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